Friday, August 31, 2012

Finding Joy in Everyday Life (15 Ways)



 These are what i do in my daily life. So, what do you do every single day?

1.      Waking up to realize you are still breathing.
2.      Hugging your loved loves.
3.      Sleeping all day on a Sunday/holiday.
4.      Reading a good book/ new blogs.
5.      Catching up with old friends.
6.      Going for a little walk.
7.      Spending quality time with your family.
8.      Enjoying the sunset in the evening.
9.      Having a cup of coffee.
10.  Watching a good movie.
11.  Cooking meals for your family.
12.  Waiting for the day to end.
13.  Visiting friends.
14.  Dreaming your dreams.
15.  Praying for a new day with new and fresh memory.

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Love Online


I saw this on a friend's page (blog) and just knew that I had to share it since it seems so evident in our society too. People meeting through online forums, chatting then brief courting and finally taking the vow for eternity. I believe u can find love anywhere, the beauty is finding it in the least expected places.

In fact this is the easiest way I have seen to meet the one you are looking for since we are damn busy in our life. I want to guess again that without any social life we feel so lonely and depressed at times. So, we do start looking for a companion.

Sometimes, I feel it is real outrageous since when was love reduced to such cheap stuffs like posts and chats. Although the pitfalls of romances springing from online love might be more frequent than the traditional family face to face and friend introductions, it does not deter from it being a valid, relevant and sincere way of starting a relationship.

But, I would like to question here, can online love be long lasting? I don't know how general this can be but with the few couples I have know who tried the knot after meeting through various dating sites and online forums, they are happy and successful. 

Yes, I do like to add that online love can be real love; I believe you can find love online. And it works for some.  And, my friends here are happily married, some even with kids.

I'm interested in those reasons. The ingredients for a successful married life but that’s for another day.
  
The normative thinking being that people lie and it’s also unhealthy to indulge into talks about ourselves without knowing the person first. Who knows (the someone) whom you are openly chatting and flirting might not take advantage of you? Sometimes without us even thinking much, we disclose our secrets which might hamper our relationship.

Personally, I believe that online romance is a risk that one must weigh critically before taking any steps further because, there are some impersonators who pretend all along. Anyone can be whoever they choose to be online. The major advantage of online romance is the privacy, and safety it provides. 

Much care should be taken to ensure one's safety.  The person you are chatting can be a young school kid or a married man or a monk. This is because it is easier to be dishonest online. The anonymity and privacy of the internet thereby becomes a tool for deception. A waiter becomes a doctor, 5’’ becomes six feet and Class X becomes College Grads. Remember, are you being your real honest self while looking for love online?

Wednesday, June 20, 2012

If we Fall in Love

There will be no ordinary days for you
If there is someone
Who cares like i do
You got no a reason to be sad anymore
I'm always ready with a smile
With just one glimpse of you
You don't have to search no more
'cause i am someone who will love you
For sure...
So...


If we fall in love, maybe we'll sing this song as one
If we fall in love, we can write a better song than this
If we fall in love, we will have this melody in our heads
If we fall in love, anywhere with you would be a better place

You can watch sad movies in a different light, so i'll be right there beside you, huggin' you oh so tight... (oh so tight...)
Has from never felt so cold and empty again, 'cause i will keep on holding on, and won't let go... (never let you go...)
You don't have to search no more, 'cause i am someone who will love you for sure...
So...


If we fall in love, maybe we'll sing this song as one
If we fall in love, we can write a better song than this
If we fall in love, we will have this melody in our heads
If we fall in love, anywhere with you would be a better place

Feel so good when you're around, one smile from you... (one smile from you...)
One thing that it feels so right...
So...


If we fall in love, maybe we'll sing this song as one
If we fall in love, we can write a better song than this
If we fall in love, we will have this melody in our heads
If we fall in love, anywhere with you would be a better... place...

(If we fall in Love...by Yeng from Princess and I)

Monday, March 26, 2012

Seeing the unseen



Last week in a training session we were each asked to draw ourselves . Like young school kid, we drew various portrait of our self. We made the most promising pictures of ourselves.

But it’s not what you are thinking guys. We didn’t draw the face of a beautiful man and a woman whom we think we are. Instead we were asked to draw ourselves  choosing a metaphor from nature which relates to us and very much compatible with our daily lives.

And, guess what. Ammm… each one of us made a picture of nature which can best represent our selves, our thinking, our ideology etc. The self portrait varied from people to people. Some of our friends made a big apple, tree, flower, butterfly, car, etc.

As for me, I drew the mountain side that we are very familiar with it. A little snow on the peak and a large river flowing through it. I always wanted my life to be like that of a river. Its flows continuously on the rough terrains, the plains, through the forest and its indivisible. .  Not a single obstacle can hinder the progress to where it flows.  It’s mighty and struggling with every phase of its journey but at the same time enjoying the larger than life expectations.

The cycle of water never ends with the snow falling in the mountains and then melting. The mountain streams team up to make great rivers that join the sea. The tides and currents foam the oceans. In the same way our feelings are constantly flowing as they connect the present with past experiences. Sometimes the waters are so deep that feelings cannot be articulated.The water represents changing tides. But this is also about the water of a evenly surfaced lake. No movement is clear, yet beneath the surface there is movement, currents and hidden activity.

Of course it can go cranky at times. There are floods and people die each year.  But that’s  totally not relevant now.

Through my drawing, I discovered myself. I saw myself in a different sphere which was very clear and simple. Seeing what our eyes have been trained not to see is a bigger challenge. Because often we do so due to negligence and ignorance. The vast river then ultimately joins the oceans and again the cycle of life continues.


Thursday, September 8, 2011

Solid Waste Management

  In a developing country, the problems associated with solid waste management are more acute than in a developed country (Zerboc 2003). Lack of financial resources and infrastructure to deal with solid waste creates a vicious cycle; lack of resources leads to low quality of service provision which leads to fewer people willing to pay for said services, which in turn further erodes the resource base and so on (Kuniyal et al. 1998; Zerboc, 2003). The problem is further complicated by rapid growth in population and urbanization, which adds greatly to the volume of waste being generated and to the demand for waste retrieval service in municipal areas. However, more often than not, an increase in population is not matched with an equal increase in revenue for the local municipalities for waste management (Zerboc 2003). Besides this, rapid urbanization means rapid growth of shanty dwelling units that are largely unplanned for, and add to the waste, health, and hygiene problems.

Another significant factor that contributes to the problem of solid wastes in a developing country scenario is the lack of proper collection and transportation facilities. Improper planning coupled with rapid growth of population and urbanization serves to add congestion in streets, and as a result the waste collection vehicles cannot reach such places, thus allowing filth to build up over time. Lack of monetary resources, at times, results in improper or no transportation vehicles for waste disposal adding another dimension to the ever rising cycle of problems (Jain 1994; Zerboc 2003).
In any developing country, the threats posed by improper handling and disposal of solid wastes (though often ignored) contribute to the high level of 2 mortality and morbidity (Medina 2002). Human and ecosystem health is also threatened due to improper handling of solid wastes.

In addition to all the problems mentioned above, mountainous regions in developing countries face additional challenges in solid waste management, in terms of their highly fragile environment and difficult terrain. The problems associated with solid waste in the mountainous region have serious cascading effects on the lower valley. Often solid waste is the number one threat to the fragile ecology of the mountainous environment (Jain 1994). Besides this, seasonal tourist inflow adds significantly to the demands on resource base and contributes considerably to the amount of wastes generated. Lack of proper regulations fails to encapsulate the waste generated by the tourists and fees to be paid there of (Jain 1994; Kuniyal et al. 1998; Cole and Sinclair 2002).

World Health Organization (WHO), Chang et al. (2001) recognized seven different ways, through which pollutants can transport back to affect human health.
Waste → soil → human.
Waste → soil → plant → human.
 Waste → soil → plant → animal →human.
Waste → soil → atmosphere → human.
 Waste → soil → surface runoff → surface water → human.
Waste → soil → vadose zone → groundwater → human.
Waste → soil → animal → human, waste → soil → airborne particulate→ human
Source: Chang et al. (2001) (for details visit https://www.who.int).

The most serious impediment for a sustainable solid waste management is that, there is a wide range of individuals, groups and organizations that are involved with waste as service users, service providers, intermediaries and/or regulators (Zerboc 2002). The interests, agendas and roles of these actors form a complicated web, which defines and designs the prevalent waste management system in any developing nation (Sudhir et al 1997). Collection and disposal of refuse within an urban area has been traditionally perceived as the responsibility of the local municipal government (formal public sector). However, in a developing country scenario the provision of waste management system by the local government is generally inadequate, centralized, top-down and in most cases inefficient (Cointreau 1982). Following which, many developing nations have a dynamic informal sector that has evolved around wastes, which supports the livelihood of a large number of the urban poor. The most common occupations are informal refuse collection and scavenging, which are undertaken by unemployed, women, children, recent migrants, etc for their sustenance and livelihood (Median 2002). The informal sector consists of many “actors” such as waste-pickers, itinerant-buyers, small scrap dealers, and wholesalers (refer figure 2.3). In India, the informal sector is attributed with recycling about 10–15% of the solid waste generated in the cities (Sudhir et al 1997). Though a formal private sector (private companies dealing with all aspects of waste management) is emerging strongly in many developing countries, however, it is yet to be an alternative to the current formal public sector. In many cases it has been seen that private sectors are generally motivated by the idea of profit maximization; the poorer section of the society in many developing countries lack the financial resources to subscribe to the services provided by private waste management companies (Sudhir et al.1997). The interactions between these formal and informal sectors design the existing waste management system in most of the developing countries.

Reusing relates to the recovery of items to be used again. Reusing ensures reduction in raw material consumption saves energy and water, reduces pollution and prevents the generation of waste. Medina (2003) regards reuse of materials and products as more socially desirable than recycling the same materials. For instance, in India, soft-drinks (Coke, Pepsi etc) are sold in glass bottles and a deposit-refund system operates. A person deposits some amount of money on purchase of the soft drink, which he/she gets back on depositing the bottle, thus enabling the producer to regulate his supply of container without having to produce new ones. Products, such as office furniture and appliances, can also be reused. For instance Manitoba Hydro donated their old office furniture and building waste to Manitoba eco-network, which was used to build a new office for the network; thus saving both time and valuable resources for both Manitoba Hydro and Eco-network. A reuse program not only saves money, it also can be a source of revenue for the companies/households that implement it. The best example would be Interface, which reuses old carpets to produce new ones, thus saving valuable resources and promoting sustainability at the same time. Public policies that provide incentives for businesses and individuals to engage in reuse can have a significant and positive economic and environmental impact (Sudhir et al. 1997, Medina 2002, Zerboc 2003). In a developing country framework, it is to be noted that due to poor economic conditions, repairing and

Although recycling is one of the most important aspects of waste management in the developed nations, due to the composition of waste and other factors, recycling may not be much of an option in terms of developing country. Separation of waste materials at the household level is perhaps a universal phenomenon; more so in developing countries where separation of anything valuable is undertaken with care, which prevents valuables and reusable materials from being discarded. The existence of waste pickers, scavengers etc, recover other valuable materials from entering the waste stream. Especially in developing countries, itinerant buyers play a vital role in recovering materials for recycling, they buy every material that has some monetary value, news papers, plastic bottles, old shoes etc (Zerboc 2003). It is however, evident that some improvement in these traditional systems can be brought about. A formalized waste recycling or recovery system supported by local municipality can go a long way in ensuring health safety for the workers, chances of better income for the rag pickers, scavengers and small time merchants dealing with waste (Zerboc 2003). Recycling waste can be a viable economic option even for some urban cities, where the nature and characteristics of waste is quite similar to the developed nations. In case of waste composition not favoring recycling, other options (recovery, diversion etc.) should be seriously considered. In the event that local municipal governments are unable to provide recycling facility due to lack of funds, private partnerships need to be encouraged and looked into as a viable option (Sudhir et al 1997, Medina 2002, Zerboc 2003).

For a developing country, looking into the waste composition and other socio-economic factors, the best form of waste reduction would be composting. It is a basic low-technology approach. Theoretically the waste of many developing nations would be ideal for reduction through composting, since it contains higher composition of organic material than industrialized countries. Hoornweg, et al (1999) calculated that on an average, urban centers in developing countries have 50% organic content in their waste stream. Early studies conducted by Cointreau (1982), found 78-81% compostable materials in the household waste generated in major cities of Indonesia and Srilanka (Bandung and Colombo respectively). In a more recent study conducted by Zurbrugg (2003) found that major Asian cities like, Hanoi, Karachi, Katmandu and many Indian cities has 68-82% compostable waste content (refer Table -2); however, it is ironic that composting is not widely practiced in the developing countries (Zerboc 2003).

The advantages of composting are numerous; it reduces the amount of waste significantly. It can be used as fertilizer and natural manure for agricultural uses, it also reduces the release of landfill gas emissions considerably and since it is a natural process, it reduces the damage to environment. Besides this, the foul stench covering any waste dump site is basically generated due to the rotting of organic waste, which will be controlled to a great extent if we go for composting instead of allowing the waste to rot (Sudhir et al 1997, Medina 2002, Zerboc 2003). Zerboc (2003) notes that composting can be undertaken in three levels: Household, community and large scale centralized level (throughout the municipality). Unfortunately, large scale operations have been a dismal failure; owing to huge amount of investment required, need to keep the equipments in working conditions etc.

(This are extracts from my Lecturer's thesis).  

Tuesday, August 9, 2011

that happens only in .........

Due to the sudden strike in the hills which occurs very frequently, we were stranded by a week or so in our beautiful Fairview (and we called ourselves the fairies) hostel during the opening of our college. We were so much bored with our monotonous way of life that was sleeping, eating and watching TV and of course chatting because the only place for recreation and the market were all closed.

After growing very impatient from many more days of recluse and homesick, we were overjoyed with excitement when we heard that college would be opening the next day. Day before we had gone to the market to get some new clothing for the grand opening.

 Finally, when it opened its gate for the new session with many enthusiastic fresher from around the locality, we were very reluctant to approach because through grapevine, we learnt that there’s going to be kinda ragging for the fresher.  Yet the day started out quite well with heavy showers & we went to the hostel chapel for our morning prayer. In spite of our seniors giving us dress code they were very friendly, helpful and polite. We were supposed to wear red top n black jeans for the girls and white shirt and black pants for the boys.  There seemed nothing of ragging and a hostile atmosphere. Made us really feel at home. But not to mention we got our share latter in our life from both our seniors at the college as well as the hostel.

Class Room…No girls and boys to sit together… Serious announcement regarding the sitting arrangements in the class too. There was much chaos in the class on the first day when a young man slightly a few years older entered our class and as supposed he didn’t sit in any of the bench. We were wondering who he was when he straight away went to the front and introduced himself as our Economics Lecturer. It was like a dream, never missing any of his class, waiting for him in the steps.
  
At the hostel each one of us had talked innumerous time that we would be meeting someone special here & here he was.  That is how I met the man of my dreams even though, he doesn’t know that I exist somewhere else. And, guess what many of the fairies found someone or the other in this very Height of Learning. And, as some would say Mon Mon Mai Love, Mon Mon Mai Break that happens only in Darjeeling.


Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Remembering Times

 Sometimes back we (two of my friend sisters and me) were terribly in search of an apartment.  Finally we got one on the outskirt of the town, though our peers helped us a lot in our search. We hurriedly went for a shopping spree, bought some curtains and other basic stuffs, etc. We settled down immediately and were so excited for the new beginning that we didn’t take note of a Very Important Person who was going to be a part of our life till the period we were going to stay there.
We realized what a blunder it was on the first day when the tap ran dry and tenants there survived on the mercy of the landlady. Scarcity of water. The flow of water on the tap depended on the mood of our dear lady. For me, it was not the first time I faced such a situation. I had suffered similar instances earlier in my life while studying in a boarding school. It reminded me of some bygone era.
One after another challenges surfaced. We became the object of interest in our landlady’s eyes since we were three young girls perhaps. Much to our amusement, she was handling our lives. She became a source of pain, enquiring about our whereabouts each day… just like a stern matron or for that matter a mom. No doubt, she was a matron; rising us daily at five in the morning (Can anyone believe??). Over the time, we befriended the stray dogs but it was a nightmare for our friends who visited us. They never allowed any stranger to pass our locality. And, yeah the disposal of garbage. So, when you see the road sides and rivers being polluted think of it. People don’t throw garbage everywhere purposely.
But one generous quality which impressed me a lot about her was the cleaning campaign that she initiated. Every weekend along with the tenants she cleaned the basements, swept the floor,. And to mention she graciously invited us for the cleaning campaign on our first Sunday there. A salute to our bossy lady.  
A larger part of our memories are already engrained there. We teased each other about the big ladder that was kept near our veranda when we come home from late night parties, and a bike on the basement, may be waiting for us to ride it when we go for late night out.
After staying there for three months we kinda couldn’t survive our lady and her untimely wishes. So, we moved on. Now we are once again in search of freedom and joy, to explore the unknown. Our small rendezvous with the wild was unexpectantly exciting. We learnt to live with each other and formed a strong companion to defend the intruders. We were accustomed to a life of help, share and care for each other. We taught each other how to survive in the world. So, we became good buddies once again.
(P.S just my opinion on the problems suffered by tenants).